Boss vs. Leader:
7 Examples

Boss vs. Leader: 7 Examples

H ave you been into a local supermarket lately? Have you noticed how many brands of breakfast cereals are on the shelves? How many different brands of breakfast cereals are you actually eating? Few!

If so, why do we need all this variety? The truth is… we don’t!

Our society is absorbed in a mad race after… MORE! More breakfast cereals, more car brands, more money, more influence, more, more, more… The reasons? Competition, power, survival and consumption.

These are only few of the characteristics of [what I call], the Masculine Energy mentality. We find those characteristics everywhere: business, politics, organized religions, social organizations and families.

If you take a break from the rat race for a moment you’ll notice that today, humanity have arrived at saturation point. The price we pay is everywhere to be seen. Wars and conflict dot the globe, huge economic and social differences exist between the West and the impoverished third world. The wealthy abide in magnificent mansions in every metropolis, whilst thousands exist without homes. Workaholism, and a frightening incidence of suicides, scar our nations.

Which leads naturally to the question, is there any other way?

I believe there is. I call it the Feminine Energy approach:
Instead of competition as a means to success, using cooperation
Instead of a ‘me first, f*ck you’, an approach of service and win-win solutions
Instead of criticism, the use of acknowledgments
Instead of indulgence – preservation
and so on…

As the number of choices in our life grow, we are seeking for a balance in our lives between our inner and outer world. Between the demands of our jobs and those of our families. Between our focus on material affluence and our quest for spiritual meaning. Between our preoccupation with our individual dilemmas and our awareness of the challenges facing society at large.

So how can we create this balance? It starts with bringing Feminine Energy into our workplace.

In the workplace we can see two types of leaders: 
The Leader [Feminine Energy] and 
The Boss [Masculine Energy]. 
And this has nothing to do with gender!

Most authorities in our business world are operating, mostly automatically, within structure of the Masculine Energy approach as we adopted our society’s values of high achievements, discipline, performances, order, competition, aggressiveness, et cetera.

Let us remember that we do need some of those approaches in order to be successful. In order to be a long-term success you will need discipline, you will need to have high performance, you will need to set high goals and act upon them.

However, in today’s New Economy you will also need to be personal, to be vulnerable, to listen, and share with your teams, customers and suppliers. All those are more Feminine Leadership approaches.

Lets take a look at seven real-life situations:

The project is stuck

The Boss looks for someone to blame and to punish,
The Leader, aware of his part, acknowledges the efforts that were made, and focuses on solutions.

In a staff meeting

The Boss issues orders,
The Leader states the vision, and brainstorms the process with the staff.

You ask to work part-time from home

The Boss demands your presence in the office, according to company rules and regulations,
The Leader supplies you with computer and connection to the office, thanking you for releasing some space.

Low-performance of the team

The Boss calls a meeting and tells everybody, ‘Here is what we are going to do.’,
The Leader calls a meeting and asks, ‘How can I support you?’

Handling change

The Boss tries to control and direct the change,
The Leader understands that change is the only constant phenomenon and goes with it.


The Boss declares the competitor as the enemy,
The Leader looks for joint ventures.

Problem solving

The Boss knows all the answers,
The Leader asks the right questions.

My question is: what are you going to choose?

Sharing is caring!
What do you choose, the masculine energy from a boss or the feminine energy of a leader?
And how do you apply that in your business or in the workplace?
Add your comment in the comment box below!
Thank you!

Vered Neta

Trainer, coach and author of ‘Financial Independence for Women’. Helping to create personal, business and financial success. I am the co-founder of Open Circles Academy, and founder of Balanced Business Women. My long term goal is to support women on their path to become conscious millionaires and leaders in their field of expertise. Let’s connect on Facebook or follow me onTwitter.

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