7 Things to
Give Up!

Mirjam Stoffels

Maybe you’ve noticed, maybe not. Since January 1st, 2014 I post one daily intention every day. Here on seven2success and in all the social media.

The thoughts you choose to think and believe right now are creating your future. These thoughts form your experiences in a moment, tomorrow, next week, and next year. An intention is a very specific thought. An intention is: ‘To have in mind a purpose or plan, to direct the mind, to aim.’ Lacking intention, we sometimes stray without meaning or direction. But with it, all the forces of the universe align to make even the most impossible, possible.

Manifesting a dream, begins by setting an intention. Your intentions will assist you in taking greater control of your life.

Today’s daily intention [#191] says ‘Today I give something up’
There is a list of 15 things you should give up to be happy: give up the need to always be right, give up the need for control, give up on blame, give up your self-defeating self-talk, give up your limiting beliefs, give up complaining, give up the luxury of criticism, give up the need to impress others, give up your resistance to change, give up labels, give up on your fears, give up on your excuses, give up the past, give up attachment and give up living your life to other peoples expectations. Quite a list, huh? Select one thing from this list today. One item is doable. You will find greater serenity, peace, and happiness by giving this thing up.

 
As said, quite a list… So I thought to dive deeper in seven items of this list!

 
#1
Give up the need to always be right
There are so many of us who can’t stand the idea of being wrong – wanting to always be right – even at the risk of ending great relationships or causing a great deal of stress and pain, for us and for others. It’s just not worth it.

Whenever you feel the ‘urgent’ need to jump into a fight over who is right and who is wrong, ask yourself this question: “Would I rather be right, or would I rather be kind?” What difference will that make? Is your ego really that big?

 
#2
Give up on blame
When you blame anything on anyone else, you step away from your own power to change your feelings. You feel like a victim. Powerless, weak, tired and hopeless.

Even if you are 100% not to ‘blame’ for any uncomfortable situation, you are 100% in charge of your reaction to it. Change your thought pattern from ‘Why me?’ to ‘What does this require of me?’ Let go of blame and grasp on to your strength!

 
#3
Give up your self-defeating self-talk
Recognize those self-defeating thoughts? They whisper quietly in your ear and their toxin spreads insidiously. You realize that they are there, but because it’s difficult to separate them from reality, so you let them stay.

Stop believing everything you think! Stop believing in all this negative self talk. Recognizie when these thoughts are happening, and choosing to not buy into the abuse. Say, “Thank you for sharing.” Or simply recognize that your brain is like a crazy, drunken monkey that says really stupid things, and that you really shouldn’t take it seriously.

 
#4
Give up complaining
We all complain once in a while. The average person complains between 15-30 times each day. You know those days when you don’t seem to have anything positive to say? Days that you can go on forever with the people, places and events that you complain about. One of your primary targets may even be yourself. Despite the initial relief, complaining is like a virus eating away any sort of happiness, responsibility, and purpose in your life.

Instead of complaining, accept responsibility instead. If something is bothering you, either fix it or accept that nothing can be done right now, so why complain? Complaining is a passive activity. Change that complaining into action to solve the problem or simple accept it and give your mind something else to focus on.

 
#5
Give up the need to impress others
Stop trying so hard to be something that you’re not just to make others like you. The moment you take off all your masks, when you stop trying so hard to be something that you’re not, the moment you accept and embrace the real you, you will find people will be drawn to you, effortlessly.

Think about it: the people you have the most respect for probably aren’t trying very hard to get your respect. They are just living their lives. Any respect they get is a side-effect, not the purpose of what they do. Make it your main goal to to impress yourself and let other people think what they want.

 
#6
Give up your resistance to change
Nothing stays the same forever. Seasons come and seasons go. But we resist change. We try as hard as we can to hold on to an ideal past or present. We try to keep things the way they are now.

Change is good. Change will help you move from A to B. Change will help you make improvements in your life. If you don’t change you don’t grow. And if you don’t grow, you aren’t actually living!

 
#7
Give up living your life to other peoples expectations
‘Be willing to let go of who you think you should be, in order to be who you are’ ~Brene Brown
From the moment you enter this world, the way you live your life is influenced by the expectations of others. Expectations are pretty powerful things. And often they are good things. They usually lift us up and make us perform at a higher level. But squeezing into a box of Someone Else’s Expectations almost always leaves you depleted. You suppress our truest desires.

Choose to be true to yourself and your own desires. Look into yourself and ask who you want to be. What do you want to share with the world? What are your values? What do you want to create?

 

 
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Thank you!

Mirjam Stoffels

Founder of seven2success, author of ‘Daily Little Secrets to Success’ and guest blogger at Project Eve and 365 dagen succesvol. In my mission to make seven2success the biggest platform of knowledge and inspiration for women, I want to inspire you with our content! Check us out on Facebook and Twitter! I’d love to connect!  And do you want to inspire other women? Write for us!

 
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