Love over Fear:
7 Reasons

Love over Fear: 7 Reasons

L ife is an unpredictable series of events, people, thoughts, and feelings. Times get tough for everyone at some point, and sometimes even tough for the whole world, given the recent events in Paris…

At this times it can be all too tempting to give in to the lies of fear [and isn't that the whole point of terrorism?]. We oversee the events, foresee a horrible future and think, ‘How are we ever going to make it through this?’

Every one of us is given the chance to choose between two pathways at the junctions in our life: fear or love. To live in abundance and freedom is to choose love.

Below are seven reasons why you should always choose love over fear. They are not a solution to conquer the horrific events in Paris, but they can be a solution in your little corner of the world. And if many of us will choose love over fear, we will change the world, one little corner of the world at a time…

Trust yourself

We all make all sorts of excuses on many occasions in our lives. The limiting belief that often underlies many of them is that you don’t trust yourself. You think that if you get into a new situation, you won’t know what to do or how to react. You’re worried that the he future will be too much to handle. Give yourself more credit than that. You’ve dealt with unexpected changes before right? And in the end, you were fine. Have enough courage to trust yourself. No matter what happens, you’ll figure out a way to make it work.

Continue working towards your goals

Despite the appearance that some people have it all together, life is not easy for anyone. The truth is that anyone who has established long-lasting success in life had to continually fight for it until it arrived. The exact same will be true of your story. Nothing that lasts comes easily, and nothing that’s easy will last. Allow your love for your goals to keep you fueled as life takes some turns that you didn’t expect.

Get out of your head

Fear is in the head, love is in the heart. Your fears are created in your own head. When you actually sit down and think about the worst case scenario, you’ll realize that there are actually very few risks that you can’t recover from. Ask yourself, ‘What’s the worst that could happen?’ And then prepare yourself to crush just that.

Focus on the process

We’re so wrapped up in results. When you start out towards a big goal, often fear takes over and you worry that you might not make it to the finish line. Guess what? Just because you didn’t reach your final goal yet, and just because you have taken some detours, that doesn’t mean you failed. Failure is not a destination and neither is success. Enjoy the process of moving forward. Confucius offers some great advice when you encounter unexpected roadblocks: ‘When it is obvious that the goals cannot be reached, don’t adjust the goals, adjust the action steps.’ It’s better to keep your path flexible than to give in to fear and abandon it entirely.

Guide your brain positively

On a simple biological level, your brain responds with greater clarity and vision when you think about something positive rather than something negative. This is why we love to listen to people who agree with us, rather than people who speak from a starkly contrasted point of view. Keep your brain focused on positive action.

Love lights up your path

Embracing your fears will only hamper your ability to move forward. Concentrating on love will show you that anything is possible if you care enough to make it happen. There is nothing to fear but fear itself. Don’t let fear have any place on your path and possibilities will unfold!

Effort matters, so use it

It sounds simple, but one of the of the big reasons we fear the change is because we don’t try. And we don’t try because then it’s easy to make excuses for why we don’t get what we want. Why do we make excuses to ourselves? It’s because if we try and fail, then we just failed. But if we don’t try, well then we can chalk it up to laziness. Get over it. Failure happens to everyone. And the funny thing is, if you get past your fears and actually try then you’ll win a lot more than you think.

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Thank you!

Mirjam Stoffels

Founder of seven2success, author of ‘Daily Little Secrets to Success’ and guest blogger at TEDxRoermond, Project Eve and 365 dagen succesvol. In my mission to make seven2success the biggest platform of knowledge and inspiration for women, I want to inspire you with our content! Follow us on Facebook and Twitter! Let’s to connect! And do you want to inspire other women? Write for us!


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